Nowadays, every day can be difficult. We’re so connected to so many people, thanks to our devices, that our whole mood can change with the tap of a screen — based on what someone texts, emails, or says to us. Rejection, and our fear of it, can play a major role in the course of everyday life. Learning how to handle rejection is a smart thing if you’re going to navigate through the waters of life in the 21st century. How can you overcome your fear of rejection — and rejection itself?
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A number of years ago, I wrote a letter to an author and speaker I really respected, Leonard Ravenhill. What I appreciated most about him was his ability to speak candidly about issues, and I wanted to let him know. I didn’t expect to get a response back from him, but I did. One day, I opened my mailbox and there was a hand-written letter from Mr. Ravenhill. The contents changed my life — and they may, in my sharing, change your life, too.
Inside the envelope was a letter that said, “Man’s opionion of God is fluid. God’s opinion of man is fixed. Trust and obey or rust and decay.” — Leonard Ravenhill. Enclosed with the letter was a business card that simply said, “A man who is intimate with God will never be intimidated by men.”
My life changed. Forever. Through the years, I’ve found his words to be true every single day I’ve remembered them — and I remember them often. His words were easy to commit to memory, and they encapsulate a verse from the Bible that says it all: “Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe.” (Proverbs 29:25, NIV).
Fear of people will mess up your life. But if you walk with God, you’ll be spared, and thrive.
Through the years, I’ve found that my fear of people, my fear of rejection, my concern for what other people think about me, is directly proportional to my walk with God. The closer I walk with Him, the less vulnerable I am to the opinions of people. You will find this to be true for yourself, too.
I’ve found that if I walk with God, I’ll please the people I need to please, and be accepted by them in the overflow. If I’m walking with God, understanding his unconditional acceptance of me, His indescribable love, His mercy and grace, I can handle rejection by mere mortals with quiet confidence. If you walk with God, you’ll experience the same.
YOU CAN DO IT
What about you? Maybe the most significant thing that needs to happen in your life is for you to develop the daily habit of walking with God. It will cure you of your fear of rejection, and help you handle human rejection in ways that are not possible without Him.
Dust off that Bible. Go to bed a little earlier tonight and every night. End your day by reading the Bible (I love the Psalms, and you will, too). Start your day a little earlier by reading the Bible, too. When we read the Bible — and put it into practice — we’re spending time with God, and walking with Him, too.